Can’t help loving that levir of mine

Sunday night’s Hallmark Hall of Fame made-for-tv movie, Loving Leah, combined many of my favorite things – Lauren Ambrose (of Six Feet Under), Michael Buble songs (Everything!), cheesy stories of improbable love, and Jews. The basic plot of Leah, based on the play by Pnenah Goldstein, is that a young Lubavitch woman in Brooklyn loses her rabbi husband and ends up marrying his brother, a secular unaffiliated Jew (but he’s a cardiologist, so….). Throw in Ricki Lake as the Reform rabbi who counsels them both, Tonye Patano (of Weeds fame) as the wise and sassy housekeeper and you’ve got yourself a Hallmark movie.

Unlike some movies and TV shows (I’m looking at you Seventh Heaven), I’d say this one actually did a relatively good job on the Jewish content. We got a nice shabbos: motzi in a Reform synagogue, candlelighting, baking challah; home life: kashering the oven (“a man is coming to use a blow torch on your oven today” was one line that had me in stitches), head & hair covering; and funeral customs: rending garments, funeral and unveiling, with a dash of yibum (levirate marriage) featuring the halitza shoe!

The women’s fashion, in my opinion, was spot-on. (Though apparently Susie Essman didn’t think so!) Leah transitions from ultra-frum with a sheitel to modern orthodox with a hippy head scarf. Even her choices when dipping her toe into the waters of below-the-knee-but-above-the-ankle length skirts seemed totally believable.

I only caught a few missteps in their portrayal of Jewish practices. Since they were so heavy handed with explaining the other customs, I gasped when they ordered in and ate out Chinese food. I had expected them to make a point of mentioning that the restaurant had to have a hekhsher, or turning it into another moment of conflict – “I can’t eat those egg rolls! Vey Zmir!” Rabbi Ricki also gave a strange attempt at explaining the afterlife, which no rabbi should ever try to do in the greeting line.

The elephant in the room, however, was named Yibum. This biblical commandment is where the movie gets its romantic underpinnings. What!?! A custom in which a childless widow must marry her deceased husband’s brother-in-law in order to carry on his family’s name was troublesome even for characters in the Torah. These days, as Loving Leah’s gloriously bearded rabbi appropriately explained, it is pretty much a foregone conclusion that halitza will occur and they will both be released from this obligation.  The romanticizing of this ritual was particularly irksome. Jake and Leah could have found themselves in some pretty dangerous, abusive territory. Trapping your sister-in-law into a sham marriage because you feel guilt about the fact that you lost touch with your brother when he became religious doesn’t end up a smoothly soundtracked romantic comedy for most folks.

But above all, I was irritated because, like in so many movies that have come before it, there was a distinct message: “people would be happier if they weren’t so darn religious!”

In Loving Leah, like in Renee Zellweger’s Price Above Rubies and a Melanie Griffith’s A Stranger Among Us, the orthodox world is insular, stifling, and ultimately, wrong for the heroine. The Hassidic woman, we learn, is secretly yearning to break out of her prison so she can let her hair down, wear brighter colors and date sexy non-rabbis. I do know some folks who did feel repressed and imprisoned and are much happier since they have left that world, but I also know people who have become their best selves since they took on more mitzvot and became part of a religious community. Aren’t there movies that don’t present religious women in this way?

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6 Responses to “Can’t help loving that levir of mine”

  1. Ha! This is so funny and so true! I usually skip the Lifetime movies but after reading your review I want to see this interesting movie.

    natalie · January 28th, 2009 at 2:21 am
  2. My roommate and I watched “Loving Leah” and both agreed that it was great (though I also thought it was awful – one of those movies I loved to hate, and hate to love).

    But the fashion! I spent a lot of time yelling at the tv, chastising the wardrobe department (while my roommate placed blame elsewhere with a few, “Oh, P’nenah, why?!”). I thought some of the outfits were too dumpy, especially for Leah and her sister (played by Natasha Lyonne). And those fake beards were more ZZ Top than Chassid.

    I can’t believe I’m admitting this, but we saved it on the DVR. It’ll be watched again.

    feygele · January 28th, 2009 at 2:30 am
  3. OH! And that their last name was Lever was too much!! (Of course it’s a leverite marriage!) Boooooo…

    feygele · January 28th, 2009 at 2:33 am
  4. What’s wrong with ZZ Top?

    Kung Fu Jew · January 28th, 2009 at 3:14 am
  5. And welcome to Jewschool, Yo! Nina!! Glad you’re on board.

    Rooftopper Rav · January 28th, 2009 at 4:41 am
  6. Seconded on welcome to Jewschool!

    A whole bunch of years ago I wrote a piece on religious women in film/TV for Bitch–I think I concluded that they were almost always either portrayed as a) damaged and insane (a la every Joan of Arc who hears voices, Agnes of God, etc) b) desperate to leave the evil constraints of their faith (cf Renee in A Price) c) flaky and not really serious (Kate W. in Hideous Kinky, Dharma in Keeping the Faith etc) and maybe something else, I don’t remember–it was a while ago. Of all the movies I watched, I think Susan Sarandon in Dead Man Walking and that rabbi on 6 Feet Under (who had only been in an episode or two at that point, and I didn’t catch the rest, so dunno if this continued to be true) offered up a pic of women who took their faith seriously and could themselves be taken seriously. Oh, and maybe Bethany from Dogma, I don’t remember what I said about that.

    I’m trying to think of something really good that I’ve seen since then, and I can’t, at least not off the top of my head.

    Danya · January 28th, 2009 at 9:20 am

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